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You have probably seen the on sites like the "Huffington Post" or Facebook under the title "I am Adam Lanza's Mother."
This post, which you should read before proceeding, I think touches only on the tip of the iceberg.
Liza Long, the original author, describes her troubled thirteen year old son. He does not listen, he threatens violence, he is out of control, he is medicated, he is probably a math or science genius.
The threatens to kill himself and her.
Because he is only thirteen her she probably still has the upper hand, but that will not last.
Eventually he will outgrow her mentally and/or physically and she will lose that The Anarchist Soccer Mom writes "Thinking the Unthinkable" about her son who struggles with perhaps mental illness or perhaps a severe discipline problem.
You have probably seen the on sites like the "Huffington Post" or Facebook under the title "I am Adam Lanza's Mother."
This post, which you should read before proceeding, I think touches only on the tip of the iceberg.
Liza Long, the original author, describes her troubled thirteen year old son. He does not listen, he threatens violence, he is out of control, he is medicated, he is probably a math or science genius.
The threatens to kill himself and her.
Because he is only thirteen her she probably still has the upper hand, but that will not last.
Eventually he will outgrow her mentally and/or physically and she will lose that control.
Her main point, I think, is that society does not care about her child or his behavior because he has not criminal record.
She wrote: "When I asked my son’s social worker about my options, he said that the only thing I could do was to get Michael charged with a crime. “If he’s back in the system, they’ll create a paper trail,” he said. “That’s the only way you’re ever going to get anything done. No one will pay attention to you unless you’ve got charges.”"
You really have to think about this.
No one wants to or can help this child unless he is labeled a criminal.
Her main point, I think, is that society does not care about her child or his behavior because he has not criminal record.
She wrote: "When I asked my son’s social worker about my options, he said that the only thing I could do was to get Michael charged with a crime. “If he’s back in the system, they’ll create a paper trail,” he said. “That’s the only way you’re ever going to get anything done. No one will pay attention to you unless you’ve got charges.”"
You really have to think about this.
No one wants to or can help this child unless he is labeled a criminal.
This is also true if your child is on drugs, or steals things, or drives around in a car without a license, for example. If he or she commits no crime as far as the law is concerned then no one cares, except, perhaps for the parents.
Similarly, the schools don't care either. If your child does not cause the school problem then they don't care. However, if they do so much as bring an aspirin to school they will be expelled.
Why are things this way?
There are several answers, I think. None of them good.
Point one. As a child I had many grade school (first through third) friends who regularly used guns for hunting. They owned guns their parents had given them. Some drove tractors on the road.
No one caused a problem at the school or at home, no one go shot or run over.
The reason?
These children all had strong discipline at home. They were always supervised by a parent, often they worked (as did I with them on many occasions).
A great deal was expected of them - intellectually and in terms of self control.
Think about Liza Long. She does not write of a husband or anyone able to discipline her child.
Her son is smart and able, he knows the rules about "his rights."
He uses this against his own mother.
This child has no discipline or self control.
Children like this did not exist in schools fifty years ago. It was not allowed by the adults in charge.
Today children like this permeate the school environment, drugged into submission and only a few missing doses away from causing problems.
Point two. Society had a model that enforced, in one way, significant control over children in terms of behavior. Children were not left alone because "idle hands were the devils workshop."
Today children have nothing but lots of "alone" time where no one supervises them either because of work or parents in school.
The children are left literally to run wild.
Parents in the olden days watched out for all children.
Misbehaving children received corporal punishment that worked.
Today a parent so much as touches a child roughly and, as Liza Long's child says, "the child knows his rights."
You have to ask yourself what about everyone else's rights to be free from tyrannical tots?
Today, as "Anonymous Mom" says in her guest post, children control their parents in stores.
You even see TV ads where the tikes are instructing their parents in the purchase of cell phone plans - showing the parents as stupid and foolish.
At the same time children were often allowed, in many way, more freedom.
My hunting 7-year old friends, for example.
As boys my older cousin and I manufactured our own explosives, guns, high voltage tesla coils, rocket cars and bikes, choppers, and arc welders, among other things.
And, while mom might have been wringing her hands while we did it, we were allowed as long as we respected the rules (we were, for example, not allowed to posses or use adult's gun powder as other children were, we had to make our own).
Today we would be in prison along with mom.
Yet these very experiences created for us livelihoods later in life that would feed us and our families for decades. These experiences led to an interest in chemistry, physics and math.
Today no one supervises children - they are too busy.
So the children are allowed nothing dangerous and have only ultra violent video games and social phone interactions to amuse them. These interests lead them either no where or down the road that other killers have followed.
The outlets available to children in the past with high IQ and inquisitive minds have been stripped away by society.
Part Three. Rambunctious boys today are quite simply have their intellects "chemically neutered" like Liza Long's son.
They are given dangerous drugs that cause them to sit quietly and not act out.
These drugs, as is demonstrated by the many violent school problems in the past, also serve to build up dangerous tendencies in these same boys.
Tendencies that are expressed in violence at school.
Long ago society deemed that recess was a "bad thing" and it was banned.
So boys and young men have no outlet for physical release, e..g, running, jumping, playing baseball.
Prisoners are treated better.
Those struggling, like Michael Long, will no doubt discover that in Colorado and Washington State marijuana will settle them, at least for a while.
In Summary:
Liza Long concludes that her son is mentally ill and the state does not wish to treat him unless he is a criminal.
This is partially correct.
In fact, the problem is far worse.
Boyhood is today a crime by and large.
And society at large enforces this via "chemical neutering" and making many activities young males engage in crimes or at least grounds for permanent expulsion from schools.
Today as long as you "behave" in school you are rewarded with not being an outcast.
As a little egg as long as you sit in your little slot in the egg carton and don't cause trouble no one bothers you.
Society has even invented "self esteem" to make you feel good about the loss of control over your life and your despair about being a "neutered failure" a "good thing" - at least as far as the rest of the herd is concerned.
Most billionaires are high school dropouts.
Outliers tend to see what others do not and can often create good or societal advantages from what they see.
But today being an outlier is a crime.
The medications society builds, for profit I might add, do not consider the long term consequences of what they do.
In fact, I wrote just the other day about how the failed treatment for C. diff was in fact killing 14,000 people a year.
But for some reason no on cares about this...?
Society does not want old people around (many old people get C. diff) so no one cares much about these 14,000 deaths.
After all, their are just old people sucking up Medicare, Medicaid, and Social Security benefits from future generations.
Guns don't kill as many people per year as C. diff - a disease you can mostly fix with $15 at Walmart.
Society allows these 14,000 deaths due to C. diff for no reason I can see.
Medical errors (preventable medical errors) kill some 195,000 people a year (see this).
Guns murder only some 10,000 or so.
So, for just two things our wonderful society provides - C. diff treatment and preventable medical errors - some 210,000 people are killed each year.
But in our sick society there is no outrage over this.
No president cries when our medical system kills 210,000 people each year.
The problem is our society.
It no longer values life. Only politics and group membership.
No one stands up for these 210,000 killed each year (this is like 21 Sandy Hooks each day).
So there is no "Facebook" like to go with...
How can we stand by while this carnage goes on and no one even bothers to report about it?
Year ago I wrote how, for example, a simple medical check list can significantly reduce these problems.
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